Miles Apart

 

Long-distance relationships are as popular as ever with technology uniting people from all corners of the world. While it may be easier to get in touch with each other, the long-distance relationship, like any relationship, require work to be successful. The following tips will help you to get the most of your relationship across the miles. 

 

Focus on your phone dates

Communication is essential to all relationships, especially to those that are long-distance. For most people in long-distance relationships this is done with phone conversations. So, focus on them. The health of your relationship depends on it.
Try to set up a regular schedule for phone calls. This has several benefits. First of all, it will make splitting the costs easier. Secondly, you will know ahead of time that you will be talking to your partner so you can set aside a block of time and avoid distractions. Third, you will learn to focus your conversations and really communicate.

 

Don’t rely solely on E-mail

E-mail is a wonderful way to keep in touch, send the daily updates, pass on a few good wishes. But really, it’s the fast food correspondence. You wouldn’t want to go to a fast food restaurant on every date would you? Take it up a notch and brush up on your writing skills. Send letters and lots of them. Letters will improve your communication and increase the romance, two things that every relationship needs.

 

Avoid the Honeymoon Syndrome

It is so easy to fall victim to the Honeymoon Syndrome while engaged in a long-distance relationship. What happens is that you tend to remember and focus only on the good things and ignore what you don’t want to see or hear. Remember that your partner is human and, like everyone else, has flaws.

 

Surprise them with gifts

This is not about showing your partner that you can and will spend money on them. Don’t try to impress them with expensive gifts. All that will do is hurt the wallet. The idea is to remind him of just how you feel.

You don’t need to send flowers or candy. You can write a poem and frame it. Make a cd of favorite songs that remind you of him. Send pictures or a small lock of hair. The possibilities are endless, just use your imagination. The idea is to send small meaningful gifts that you will each cherish forever. 

 

 

Kelly Spencer grrl-e-grrl.com contributor